Tell Me Something Good is Coming Back!

Did you miss us?  If so, your wait is going to be over very soon!  We will be back in action after the new year, so be prepared to share!  We have a new look, and have moved the site over to wordpress so that you can register, make posts, contribute, whatever you want to do!  Feel free to make suggestions, and offer advice on things that can improve the site, and improve your experience!  If you have something on your mind that you think would make a great topic, just register as a member and submit your topic, making sure to include links back to your own blog! 

Happy Holidays, and we look forward to growing and sharing with you guys!

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When a man loves a woman . . .

When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she's bad he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down . . .

I love this song recorded by Percy Sledge (redone by Michael Bolton in the early 90's).  The lyrics ooze a story of sweet, sweet love. 

Has any recording artist captured your love story in song?  Do you have a story that goes along with the song?

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Fall Fashion

With Fall fast approaching, it's time to start pulling out sweaters and boots, and assessing those wardrobes!  What is your favorite thing about fall fashion?  Do you love warm, cozy sweaters?  Are you looking forward to hats and scarves?  What stores have you favorite fall style options?

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Connected Kids

Facebook, twitter, blogging, texting.  All of these electronic means of communication are permeating our day to day lives more and more.  How old do you think a child should before they begin to use these things?  At what age would you allow a facebook account?  When will you get your child their first cell phone?  Do they already have it?  What restrictions will be in place to make sure that they use it responsibly?

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Dividing the Pot

With financial issues being cited as one of the #1 reasons that many couples get divorced, how do you think that the issue of money should be handled?  Do you think that couples should keep separate bank accounts, or combine finances?  How do you feel about each spouse having their "own" bills?  Does it matter if one spouse makes more than the other?  What about SAHMs?  What happens if one spouse loses their job?

(We understand that money can be a VERY private matter.  Please don't let that deter you from sharing your opinion!  You don't have to tell what your actual situation is, but feel free to let us know how you think it SHOULD be!)

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Never Say Never...

"Not have enough time to take a shower? Me? Uh, Uh, never." That's what I always thought when I saw moms complaining of not having enough time to get things done.  Now?  One of my biggest frustrations is finding the time to workout, and then not being able to get in a shower immediately after. Hmph.  It's crazy really, the amount of things I claimed would "never" happen to me once I had a baby.  And guess what?  That list is probably just getting started, and only going to get bigger.  Amazingly, I still find myself thinking "I will never let Izzy do that." Yeah.  We'll see, lol.

What are some things you swore you would never do with your kids that you did, indeed, end up doing?

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Makes me feel so good . . .

I love when my husband makes me feel like he appreciates me.  It can take lots of forms.  Flowers. Dinner.  A card. A hug.  A simple Thank You. 

What are some things that your significant other does to  make you smile?  Makes your day after working 10 hours?  Simply makes you feel . . . . appreciated?  And what do you do when you want want him to feel the same?
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Labor Day!!!!

Hey Ladies,

TMSG is taking a break for the US Holiday, Labor Day.  We'll be back for great conversation on Tuesday.  Enjoy your Holiday!!  photo credit

History of Labor Day

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It was THAT perfect . . .

He picked you up ON TIME and brought you pink roses.  He held open the door, pushed in your chair as you sat and let you order first . . . 

Was it that perfect?  Did you laugh for the entire date?  Or did you wonder why your sister set you up with this loser?  Did you make an instant "love connection" or did it take a couple tries to get it right? 

On your first date with your significant other, what did you do and what was it like?  (photo credit)

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THE Talk . . .

On Monday, as my husband was dealing with the extremely important fantasy football draft, I had the rare opportunity to be in possession of the remote control.  As I was flipping channels, I found the Lifetime movie The Pregnancy Pact, which is Lifetime's interpretation of the true story of 18 girls at a Massachusetts high school. As I was watching, I started thinking about THE talk.  Teen pregnancy rates are out of this world.  Every client I interview about sexual activity  tells me they've been active since about the age of 14.  One of my 13 year old clients came to me one day and told me his 13 year old girlfriend WAS pregnant, but her mother made her get an abortion. (photo credit)

What is happening??? Are parents waiting too late to have the talk?  Does the talk not work anymore?  When did you get the talk?  When/how do you plan on having it with your children?

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Power Struggle

How would you handle a situation in which you and your child's father diasagree about certain parenting choices?  Discipline, grades, curfew, etc, etc.  Does the age of the child matter?  Does it matter if the two of you are in a relationship?  Would the child's gender be a factor? Weigh in!

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Going Under the Knife

Would you ever consider having any cosmetic procedures done to your face?  Botox, fillers? More drastic things like a nose job, or brow lift?  Would your decision change if money weren't an option?  What about smaller things, like teeth whitening, chemical peels?  Have you ever done any of these things? (we won't tell!)
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Love Handles

Would you feel comfortable approaching your significant other with concerns about their weight?  What about if they approached you about yours?  If your spouse gained a large amount (30lbs+) of weight, would you ask them to lose it? Would you be mad if they asked you to? Do you think that a drastic change in weight can affect the dynamics of your relationship?

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Getting Gussied Up!

Do you take the time to fix your hair, and do your makeup every day?  If so, do you do it first thing in the morning?  Do you stay in PJ's until your spouse is 5 minutes away from home?  Are you a liner and gloss girl, or full on, cover-shoot ready?  Let us know, and don't be afraid to share what products and brands you use!

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When homewreckers attack . . .

Angenlina Jolie . . .  Alicia Keys . . . Gabrielle Union . . . Fantasia Barrino . . . All of these these women have been dubbed "homewreckers."  Are they really???

Don't get me wrong.  They met married men, got involved and maintained relationships with these men.  One got married and two of them have children (one currently pregnant) with those married men.  But why are THEY the homewreckers?  When did they take the vows?  When did they promise "forsaking all others . . . I choose you"?  Granted, they could exercise a level of morality and recognize their actions were wrong, but none of these women were married.  Some how they are responsible for breaking up households, that they did not even set up.  Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren's divorce was finalized on 8/23/10.  Tiger has been called a number of different things, but I have yet to hear him be called a homewrecker.  Ummm . . . isn't what he did the epitome of wrecking his home?  Is there some sort of societal double standard that absolves husbands' of their responsibility of maintaining their marriages/households and somehow all the responsibility lies on outside entities?  What do you think?

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...You Know What They Say..

  "You know what they say about babies who develop fast, don't you?" If I hear that statement one more time, just ONE MORE, I just may scream.  Because what "they" say is that when baby hit their development milestones "early", it means they're getting out of the way for the next baby.   My daughter just turned 8 months old, and has recently begun taking steps on her own.  My mom, grandmother seem to ask me every day "Are you sure you're not pregnant?" Yes mom, I'm sure I'm not pregnant. Same time tomorrow?  If a child's rate of development starts affecting the efficacy of birth control, someone let me know.
I'm not ready to be pregnant again.  Ideally, I would like Izzy to be approaching at least 2 years old we start working on our 2nd child.

How many years apart are your children?  How long do you want to wait before having another?  Even if it's different from what YOU want to do, what do you think is the ideal age between siblings?

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Is it Fate or just a Fling

Boy do we have a hot topic for you today. We also have a fabulous feature blogger. Ms. Baby Plan at The Baby Plan submitted this topic:

Although you love your husband, something has changed between the two of you and lately you have started to fantasize about a guy at work. In your heart you know you still love your spouse, but you cannot help how you are feeling about this new person. You really start to believe it is love. At home, you become distant and start behaving strangely. You tell one of your best friends how you feel. Together you start to observe this guy to see if he has any feelings for you.

The chance comes and you find yourself telling this person how much you like him. Lucky you. He likes you too... as a friend. He goes on to say that you are great but he does not want to ruin his relationship.

If you are really hardcore head over heels for him, what do you understand from his statement,"does not want to ruin his relationship [with you]"?

What do you do after that episode and why? Lets go wild with our minds and chat.

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Is there a "right time" . . . .

 
 . . . to get married??  Is there a right age?  20's?  30's?  40's???  Should you complete your educational goals first?  Buy you own place? Travel the world? 

What do you think?  Is there are age that is better for marriage and what did/would you need to accomplish in your life in order to be ready for marriage?  How long is long enough to date before you should be saying I Do?

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Next stop . . . the Academy Awards

It feel really good to be recognized for doing a good job.  No blogger feels complete until they've gotten their first BLOG AWARD!!!  And we'd like to thank Ms. Baby Plan of The Baby Plan for thinking so highly of us to give us this little beauty.

In order to accept this award, we have to list 7 things about ourselves.  Well, here we go:

1. Believe it or not, we are both Mrs. Jones.  Welcome to bizzaro world.
2. We are both married to men who are 6'4".  We swear it's not the same dude, LOL.
3. We both  love the fall season. . . . the weather is perfect and the fashion is at it's best.
4. We both rock afros al a Pam Grier from the 70's . . . well, not as big YET.
5. We both LOVE our legs.  Christina's legs are long and go on forever.  The shape of Ms. Understood's legs can stop traffic (and has).
6. We both can't get enough CHOCOLATE.
7. Lastly, we both LOVE talking to you so don't forget to come back and visit.

Who else would be give this award to but to our most loyal readers.  Ms. Baby Plan, one of our most loyal readers, gave us this award and we believe we should pass that love along.

1. CK at Made by Bedtime Tales
2. Rose's Daughter @ My Life
3. Rhonda @ Motivation Mama Drama
4. Margaret @ The World As I See It (Margaret is the best.  She also retweets our blog posts)
5. Mrs. R @ Mrs. R
6. Brown Eyed Girl @ Tales of a Brown Eyed Girl
7. Krissy @ The Musings of Me 

These ladies are staples here on our blog and they have amazing blogs themselves.  Please visit and give them some blog love.  We have so many other regulars that we would love to award and will make sure to spread the love around next go round.

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Are Product Recalls Fair?

Very recently, there has been an influx in products being recalled.  In the case of a product that is unsafe, I think we can all agree that yes, it should be recalled, to protect consumers from harm.  But what about situations where a product is used incorrectly,causing harm to a consumer.  Is it fair to that company to have to incur the expense and bad publicity of recalling a safe ( if used correctly, according to included instructions) product?

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The Best Time of Your Life

"Ohhh, pregnancy is so wonderful.  I love(d) being pregnant, enjoy this time!"  If you're pregnant, have ever been pregnant, or will ever be pregnant, you've heard it, will hear it, or maybe you've even said it!  You may agree wholeheartedly, or you may disagree, with a passion.  Either way, let's share!  What was/is your favorite part of being pregnant?  What did you hate?  For the ladies who haven't experienced pregnancy yet, what happy moments are you anticipating?

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Bring it back?

Acid wash jeans? Slouch socks? Stirrup pants? Crop tops?  What about hairstyles?  The Farrah Fawcett?  The Jennifer Anniston?  A Pam Grier Afro?

What fashions would you love to make a comeback.  What current fashions do you wish would make a quick exit.

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Pam Grier
stirrup pants
acid wash pants

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Power plays in the bedroom

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I was talking to Audrey of I'm So Aud (@Im_So_Aud) about the forever of marriage, blending lives and what throws a wrench in the plans.  I mentioned that using sex as a power tool was one of the many things that can break down marriage.

Let's get real here.  When he comes home late after hanging out with the fellas, he forgot to pick up the dry cleaning like you asked (again) and for the third day in a row you tripped over his shoes that he left at the door, do you suddenly "have a headache"?  If he doesn't do what you want him to do, do you ration the goodies? Is there ever a time bedroom power plays are okay?

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You, a friend and Fashion Week, NY

You. Look. Fabulous. Rocking your skinny jeans, stiletto heels and sunglasses. The ensemble screams . . . I'm a star!! You're rubbing elbows with fashion industry execs as you watch models rip the runway. Can you imagine it? You, at Fashion Week, NY, and you are VIP . . . . And then you woke up right? Wrong!

You and a friend could be VIP at the unveiling of the Academy of Art University's Spring 2011 Collection at Fashion Week in New York. This contest is not exclusive to Tell Me Something Good readers, however, the Interactive Media Specialist, Mr. Henson Gawliu, approached us and asked us to present this opportunity to our readers. To enter visit : http://www.academyart.edu/fashion-school/new-york-fashion-week-contest.html
Good luck to all who plan to enter.

If you were going to fashion week:
1. Who would you take with you?
2. What would you dream outfit be?
3. Which designer's show would you love to view?

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The Divorce epidemic

According to data from 2008 statistics, The Center of Disease Control reported the following:

There are 7.1 marriages for every 1000 total population
There are 3.5 divorces for every 1000 total population (44 states and DC reporting)

Roughly, that's about 1 out of every 2 marriages ending in divorce.
Essentially, if you are married and your best friend is married, odds are one of your marriages isn't going to make it.

Weddings are a MAJOR money making business from TV shows to $1000 wedding cakes. Everybody and their momma has a dating reality show.   But marriage?  How much is really invested into creating "forever" unions?  Is it supposed to last forever??   What are your thoughts on what is causing the divorce epidemic?

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Putting Baby In A Corner..

Although my daughter (8 months) is too young to be disciplined beyond being told "no" and having her attention redirected, I've been wondering about the appropriate age for discipline.  Discipline can be a somewhat hot-button issue, but my question today is less about how you discipline your child, but more about what age that discipline began.  How old was your child when you felt they were old enough to understand being disciplined?  Whatever form of discipline you use, do you feel that it works?

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Regimen!

Beauty regimens!  We all have them, right?  Maybe you're one of those women who is very consitent with hers, netting great results, and great skin to boot!  Or....maybe you're like me, and do it 2 times, forget to on that 3rd attempt, and then never do it again!  In any case, share your secrets for beautiful skin, but don't forget to share the secret of implementing them every day!

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Is it possible . . . to just be friends?

He's tall, dark and handsome and you've always
 thought it was cute the way he has a crooked smile and a dimple in his left check . . .  but you and he have always been just friends. You aren't interested in him "like that" and he's not interested in you.  You both had relationships with other people, which eventually lead to your marriages.  Does your friendship have to stop?  Can you still talk on the phone?  Text?  Hang out?  Do you think it's possible to just be friends.
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Thank You!

Oh my gosh.  What a week this has been.  We've gotten lots of great visitors.  Great conversations.  AND 31 fabulous followers.  Thank you so much ladies.  You don't know how much we appreciate your interest and support. We look forward to continuing to learn about you all, connect with you, and share as much as we can.  We have so much in store for this blog, and we are glad to have you along for the ride!

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When you think of them

If you've read my blog, you know I love to reminisce about life and the people who have touched me along the way.  The awful truth about life is the longer you live, the more people you will lose.  I lost my mom when I was 19 years old. I miss her so much, but what I love to think about was our happy times together. How do you like to remember the people you've lost?  Do you have a fond memory or an experience with a lost loved one?

I'll share one of mine that tickles me pink.  I had to be about 12 or 13 years old.  I was walking down the hallway of our home from my bedroom to either the family room or the kitchen (can't remember).  As I turned the corner to continue down the hall, I saw my mother in the dining room trying to grab a casserole dish out of the hutch.  She dropped it.  Then she dropped the S-bomb.  I gasped because I had never heard her curse before.  She looked up at and smiled.  You know that smile.  She sheepish grin of someone who just got caught.  We never spoke about it and I never heard her curse again, but in that moment, we made an unspoken vow to keep the secret (oops . . . now I've told the blog world).

So what's you fond memory? Funny story? Favorite way to remember your lost loved one?

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Why Get a Job When I'm Getting a Check?!

Recently, I was reading an article that claimed that unemployment benefits caused people to not seek work after being fired/laid off. My initial reaction was a confuse "What!?"  As I read on, this idea began to make more sense me. While the amount of money you may be paid in unemployment benefits is not enough to maintain an enjoyable lifestyle, I can certainly understand why someone who was seeking employment may not accept "lesser" job offers in hopes of coming across something comperable to (or better than) their previous position.  There's a lot less pressure to find a job when you know that at the very least, your electricity wont be terminated and your children won't have to be hungry.  On the other hand, I think it's pretty awful (and honestly, irresponsible) to not even look for employment just because you are receiving those benefits. I feel that this sucks resources away from people who really need the assistance, and are actually making an effort to provide for their families.

Do you think that receiving state benefits makes a person less likely to seek employment?

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I Might Be Driving Myself Crazy . . .

Surprise!! I know, who would think that Ms. Understood, non-mommy of the duo, would have the first mommy spotlight. Well, that is because I have a question for all you moms out there. How did you prepare?

My husband and I look at the cost of day care and get scared. From the date you got that positive test result to the day you took your little one home, how did you get ready ??

(physically, financially, etc)


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Are you . . . faithful??

Huh????

What does being faithful have to do with fashion or beauty?  Let me tell you. I am faithful to a particular design line. All of my purses come from this line. And I mean ALL of my purses (wristlets, wallets, coin purses, shoulder bags, etc.) come from this line. Are you faithful to that one designer?  Or do you shop around?  What are you "go to" stores for your purses?  Do you have a limit on what you will spend?

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Last Hurrah..

What traditional elements come to mind when you think about getting married?  Engagement photos, announcements in the newspaper, deciding venues, ......a bachelor/bachelorette party?  These days, it seems to be a rare occurrence to not spend the night before the wedding engaging in levels of debauchery that range from "innocent fun with friends" to "let's never speak of this again."  I'll weigh in with my opinion in the comments, but I would love to hear from you guys.  Did you or your spouse have a bachelor/bachelorette party?  What did you do?  Where do you draw the line between having a good time and cancelling the wedding?  If you're not married, do you plan on having a "last hurrah?" Will you allow your spouse to?

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What you've been waiting for . . .

Hey ladies,

Welcome!!! We are so excited to launch this blog. In an effort to connect with, learn about, and share more with our fellow bloggers, we wanted to start a blog with a topic of the day.

Everyday, Monday through Friday, there will be a new conversation topic.
Mondays hot topic will be Relationships and Intimacy
Tuesdays we will dabble in Fashion and Beauty
Wednesdays we will discuss three Ps - Planning/Pregnancy/Parenting
Thursdays will focus on Current Events
Fridays will be a special treat . . . a Wild Card, which could feature a topic of the day from YOU!

To keep everyone together, comments in each topic will close 48 hours after the topic posts.  Stop in once a day or several times a day. We want to talk to YOU!! The Ground Rule is both singular and simple.  Let's be respectful of each others' differences of opinion.

Bring us your suggestions for conversations, submit your website to our blog roll and make yourself at home!  And while you're here? Well....Tell Us Something Good!

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