Tell Me Something Good!: Last Hurrah..

Monday, August 2, 2010

Last Hurrah..

What traditional elements come to mind when you think about getting married? Engagement photos, announcements in the newspaper, deciding venues, ......a bachelor/bachelorette party? These days, it seems to be a rare occurrence to not spend the night before the wedding engaging in levels of debauchery that range from "innocent fun with friends" to "let's never speak of this again." I'll weigh in with my opinion in the comments, but I would love to hear from you guys. Did you or your spouse have a bachelor/bachelorette party? What did you do? Where do you draw the line between having a good time and cancelling the wedding? If you're not married, do you plan on having a "last hurrah?" Will you allow your spouse to?

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Jessica · 767 weeks ago

I think that is the most sad event a couple getting married could have. My husband and I were looking forward to being married... not looking sadly at the fact that we wouldn't be single anymore. We did not have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We have been married for almost 9 years. (Got married at age 20).
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Danielle · 767 weeks ago

I agree. We didn't have a bachelorette/or bachelor party. My husband went golfing with a few friends, including my dad, and I didn't have anything. We weren't sad to see being single go, we didn't need last hurrahs, we were so excited to start our new life together.

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Christina 47p · 767 weeks ago

Personally, I would have felt so diresptected. I know you're technically "single" until you get married, but if you're at a place where the wedding is tomorrow,um....you're not single! I know that physical, and even sexual attraction to other people doesnt just stop because you married (or are dating someone), but purposely putting yourself in a situation where another person is getting the type of attention that should be reserved for your spouse? that's just beyond me. What a horrible way to begin your new life together.
That being said, I don't see anything wrong with going out, partying, clubbing, etc, etc, it's when naked people and sex get involved that I see the problem.

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musings123 14p · 767 weeks ago

Agree with Christina. There is nothing with going out with your friends, but the opposite sex should not be involved.

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Mrs. R · 767 weeks ago

Hubby and I just spent a night out with friends. Simple dinner. I had my outing a month before the wedding. There is no reason to act a fool and look like crap on your wedding day. I was older when I got married, so the whole clubbing scene was tired.
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Ms. Understood · 767 weeks ago

One thing I know for sure is his last hurrah had better have happened prior to us dating. Being unmarried, but dating/engaged, is not the same thing as being single. When we started dating, we made a pact to be exclusive. Period. Now, I had a bachelorette party. We loaded into a limo, did a pole dancing class, ate dinner and hit the boardwalk. My husband, he and his friends went to the strip club. I knew that 's where they would be going (honest is very important). Frankly, the stripper at the club is the least of my worries. Don't get me wrong, I'm not jumping for joy and doing a jig if he goes to the club, but I'm also not standing at the door with a rolling pin and he's not sneaking around claiming to be at a Men's group Bible study.
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Christina 47p · 767 weeks ago

Going to the strip club is different than the type of thing I was imagining, lol. I personally wouldnt be ok with it, but I think that if that's what the guys want to do (and the wife/future wife is ok with it) then cool. MY mind was on an article I read a while back, written by a guy, who was arguing that lap dances, touching, etc, didnt constitute a betrayal, and wasn't anything to be bothered by........um...what? The hell it isn't! I can handle looking, but touching........that would be a no. And LET him come home trying to convince of that nonsense.....I would be on someone's evening news, lol.

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Rhonda · 767 weeks ago

I had a nice dinner out with my friends followed by a classy lingerie party. I'm not into all the other shenanigans. My husband went out with the boys, including MY DAD to Hooters for wings. I knew not much could happen there, but I don't worry about that with him. Besides, I wouldn't want to be married to someone I didn't trust.
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Ms. Understood · 767 weeks ago

LOL. Rhonda, I bet he was on his best behavior at Hooters with your pops, LOL. But you hit on the key point that I was getting at. I trust my husband. He can tell me the truth and what he tells me I don't have to second guess.
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luvlymskrissy 70p · 767 weeks ago

i think if my future husband wanted to go out and do man things before we got married i wouldn't mind. i would trust him to behave himself because technically he isn't a single man and would soon be a married man. And if my girls decided to plan some fun for me then i would participate. I don't see the harm in it if you aren't acting all out of character.

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Natalie · 767 weeks ago

We didn't do anything crazy. I think I went out with my girlfriends (same kind of night out we always have), and I don't think my hubby did anything more exciting than golf with the guys. Why put yourself in that situation, you know? I'm not a fan of the stereotypical bachelor/bachelorette party :(
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preshusmedotcom 29p · 767 weeks ago

I had a Fantasia party (kind of like a Tupperware party but for adult) and hubby went to a couple of strip clubs with his friends. I didn't mind because he was so hung over the next day it was nice to see him suffer. :)

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