Monday, August 30, 2010

Love Handles

Would you feel comfortable approaching your significant other with concerns about their weight?  What about if they approached you about yours?  If your spouse gained a large amount (30lbs+) of weight, would you ask them to lose it? Would you be mad if they asked you to? Do you think that a drastic change in weight can affect the dynamics of your relationship?
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Mimi · 763 weeks ago

I would most definately confront my significant other regarding their weight. However, I think I would approach it from an angle regarding my concern for their health rather than their attractiveness quotient. I am open to constructive criticism and if I was approached regarding my weight, if it was indeed a problem I wouldn't be offended. From a male point of view I do believe if a woman gained a large amount of weight it would become an issue. Men are far more visual than women, and are constantly bombarded with images of thin and "sexy" women in the media. Women on the other hand are less superficial *IMO* and would be less likely to let something of the sort impact their relationship unless it was very extreme.
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chriswife 58p · 763 weeks ago

The year before I got pregnant, I had gained a TON of weight. You know how we are always asking our hubby's"does this make me look fat?" Well, I asked and he answered yes! But on the same line, He's asked and I've told him yes too. We are REALLY honest. I think he's giving me a pass right now because I just had a baby.( yea, 9 months ago). And if C-Dub gained a ton of weight right now, I would have no problem telling him he had to loose it. It's not healthy. And NOT attractive.
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Mrs. R · 763 weeks ago

My husband has put on a few pounds and I think he looks great. I know in a marriage you will always put on a little love weight, but we walk everyday and are active. I think he has gained weight with me during the pregnancy and it is ok. LOL. As long as he is happy and his health is not adversely affected, I do not have a problem. I know when we eat out or if I cook at home we usually opt for the healthier things. We could do better, but I need to also help him vs scold him. He likes to look a certain way in his suits/casual clothes and I do too, so I think we will not let our weight get out of control.
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keyalus · 763 weeks ago

I totally dragged my husband down into the muck with me when I got pregnant. I do all the grocery shopping and well, he's a man so - if Cheetos, Ice Cream and Bakery Cakes suddenly start showing up he's going to indulge too! He probably gained 15 lbs and I noticed but I never said anything. He had room to gain a bit a weight while I didn't.

We are both fairly body conscious so neither of us has had to call the other out. He says he needs to lose weight (although his efforts haven't been very good LOL). I've been busting my hump since 8 weeks post-partum and lost 65lbs. He claims my weight doesn't bother him but it bothers me and I'm correcting the problem.

It can totally affect a relationship because I don't feel very sexy when I'm busting out of my old clothes.
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-CK · 763 weeks ago

The other day I heard a story on the radio that featured women in India who have surgery to make their noses larger. Here in America, we have plastic surgery to make our noses smaller. ya. The announcer ended her report by saying, maybe more people in the US should visit Samoa.
Weight can be such a weird thing. We eat all day every day... there must be something we can learn from the way we discipline ourself with food, don't you think?
just thinking...
PS If my husband gained 30+ lbs real fast, I'd ask him to train for a marathon with me. I'm sure he couldn't turn me down ;)
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preshusmedotcom 29p · 763 weeks ago

My hubby and I both carry around a few extra pounds but really, he likes my curves and I'm healthy. My body has settled in at a weight that's it's comfortable at and I'm ok with that. And the only reason why I'd tell him to lose weight is if his health were an issue. In fact, when I do mention it to him it's because of his health and no other reason. I want him to live for a very long time!
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Ms. Understood · 762 weeks ago

I think that people (not just men) are physical creatures. If I like a toned man, I want my husband to do his darndest to be that and I imagine the reverse. I believe wholeheartedly people "let themselves go" in marriages and, frankly, it's not fair. Can people put on some pounds, sure, if happens with age naturally. If my husband told me I was getting thick in the waist, yes, it would sting. Especially if I bore him children, but no one ever said marriage was easy and sometimes you have to work at your physique. I would feel comfortable asking him to lose and I would work hard to address my weight if he mentioned it. Bottom line, the request has to come over with love and respect. Belittling and criticizing is not okay.
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